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Old 09-08-2009, 07:11 AM   #24 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by ratbastid View Post
The problem isn't the behavior, or any quibbles like frequency, likelihood of real-world hookup, etc, etc. The problem is the secrecy around it.

People. If you're doing something you can't tell your partner about, that's cheating.
I don't tell everything to my SO

But I am glad that I watch porn, visit Tfp and chat with some girls (I thank them)
Leaving the naughtiness apart, the education really was necessary

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Originally Posted by little_tippler View Post
Also, the fact that it's one on one. If he was, say, looking at naked or semi-naked girls in a public chat situation, as occurs in TFP chat currently (), I wouldn't care. It is more playful, and has no intent other than to show off, arouse and be aroused. There is no one-on-one interaction really. Seems harmless.
Sorry makes no sense to me

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Originally Posted by neveragain View Post
Well I found out not long ago my SO has been online chatting with a few girls, no biggie well until I learned it wasn't just chatting, it was dirty talking and picture exchanging. When I brought it up to him and explained that it upset me and asked why he did it , he told me its like porn to him. So my question is Do you consider sexual messaging a porn fix, cheating , just fun or what. Would like some insight on this as I just don't see how they can be considered the same as porn.
How is your relationship with him? If it is perfectly normal filled with fun, purpose and trust - You can let him do it

At the same time, if you get really upset, and if he loves you he will not do it.

Honestly, at least he will be careful and thoughtful enough not to be caught. Say in a family father and mother both are open about porn. Still they exercise extreme caution not to expose it to their children. It is something like that
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