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Originally Posted by amonkie
While this sucks, she is not entirely at fault - What kind of sign is it that you went snooping? I've heard the line don't snoop if you can't handle what you find.
That aside... Hopefully this will be the best outcome for everyone's mental sanity.
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I totally agree. I felt terrible snooping and when I confronted her with it I told her to change her passwords and everything. As a married couple we had and kept no secrets. Email, bank accounts, cell phone; everything was shared and open. I never ever did not trust her until this year.
You see snooping caused me a lot of pain because I had to deal with what I knew without telling her. However, had I not snooped I would have remained clueless as to her true intentions and would have continued trying and hoping to save our marriage.
In the end it was the right thing for me to do. She admitted that while she felt slightly violated she would have done the same thing but far worse.
While painful I have not lost faith in marriage. I loved being being married. I just took it for granted. My next wife will never be put in the same position or have any doubts.