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Originally Posted by mixedmedia
I'll take a moment to interject an example of taking charge of this situation:
Take your child to the car, strap them into their car seat and sit there with them until they decide to calm down. You are not teaching them that their behavior is going to get them a desired change of scenery. By ignoring their behavior and continuing with your shopping you are, in effect, telling them that it is ok with you. It's a simple technique and it works. Even toddlers can understand such a basic concept after two or three examples.
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and I'll interject that it's all relative to the child. For instance, my two kids are completely different. When my son was two, we were eating and he decided to pop the wobbly. After nothing would console him after about 2 minutes, (I try to be considerate to people eating) my wife took him to the car. He was even more infuriated and continued to cry for another 20-25 minutes. He didn't stop until we got home. I found that the best way to deal with him is to take him to the side, and get down to his level and find out what's wrong. Sometimes it may take a few minutes of talking for him to calm down but it works.
My daughter however, if she pops a wobbly in a store or anywhere else, she's usually looking for attention. She LOVES attention.. doesn't matter what kind..she just loves it. In her case, she'll stop in 5 minutes or less if I ignore her and don't pay attention to her tantrum and continue about my business. Now she's realizing that she won't get attention for acting up while we're out and she doesn't do it as often. Although, whoever coined the phrase terrible two.. must have foreseen my daughter
I really don't think there is any hard or fast rule on this.. it's just dependent on the type of archetype the child has and figuring out the best way to handle each child, because they are all different
and.. a big fucking AMEN to filtherton