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Originally Posted by Crompsin
But I saw Ghost. The guy died. Granted, it's a great flick to watch when you wanna get laid. Totally plays into the Girls Have Feelings thing.
Ya feel my pain? That's cool. Yeah, I've made my emo history pretty clear in my endless rants here at TFP. Turns out infidelity and angst are probably universal problems for all relationship'd humans. It's the communication style and wants/needs part that varies. Please correct me if I'm wrong.
Wait, wait, wait... how would I overdo it with a "she's a woman" stuff? And why are you, of all people, suggesting this? See, I tried to do the whole egalitarian creature thing in my last relationship and that failed like the Joe Theisman's femur. Oh, snappitydoodle. No flowers, no love notes... and I was the lanky cracker equivalent of a Mystikal song. I might be a little too on the extremes here, but I've already done the tough guy bit and the nice guy bit.
RE: OP: Survey says... it's a mystery! Sex is easy to initiate when you're doing it with a new stranger and often becomes a weaponized chess piece later down the line. Maybe it's simple anthropology... maybe it's an indicator of how relationships aren't supposed to last beyond a few months.
Are you suggesting I drop the Worried Nice Guy act and resume surprise anal during the midst of routine Wednesday missionary?
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This is a worried nice guy act? brother, please.
I'm doing homework right now and don't have time to respond in full, but basically everything you wrote up there is a perfect illustration of what you are doing
wrong. The relationships themselves sound like some kind of hobby for you. Like learning to do the Foxtrot.
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I might be a little too on the extremes here, but I've already done the tough guy bit and the nice guy bit.
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Try not doing a bit. Don't bother with starting a relationship unless the woman is the right fit - not saying don't date or hang out with women - but don't start compromising yourself to make it fit. It's the road to disaster. You need to find someone who accepts you the way you are....i know that phrase is trite, but it's right.
And why 'me of all people?' That's another thing - stop investing so heavily in stereotypes. Just because I identify sexually as a submissive, doesn't mean that every display of dominance turns me on. It's a subtle thing...one that needs a match that understands that.
blah, blah, blah...gotta go