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Originally Posted by mixedmedia
I think you complicate things way too much. You seem to see romantic relationships as a big clouded mystery that can only be traversed by deliberate micromanagement of every step. I feel your pain and I think I know (from your writings here) where it's coming from. But I'm afraid you're going to overdo it with the 'but, she's a woman' stuff. You're too hard on yourself, you're too hard on your partners. You need to soften up a little - maybe take a pottery class or something.  |
But I saw
Ghost. The guy died. Granted, it's a great flick to watch when you wanna get laid. Totally plays into the Girls Have Feelings thing.
Ya feel my pain? That's cool. Yeah, I've made my emo history pretty clear in my endless rants here at TFP. Turns out infidelity and angst are probably universal problems for all relationship'd humans. It's the communication style and wants/needs part that varies. Please correct me if I'm wrong.
Wait, wait, wait... how would I overdo it with a "she's a woman" stuff? And why are you, of all people, suggesting this? See, I tried to do the whole egalitarian creature thing in my last relationship and that failed like the Joe Theisman's femur. Oh,
snappitydoodle. No flowers, no love notes... and I was the lanky cracker equivalent of a Mystikal song. I might be a little too on the extremes here, but I've already done the tough guy bit and the nice guy bit.
RE: OP: Survey says... it's a mystery! Sex is easy to initiate when you're doing it with a new stranger and often becomes a weaponized chess piece later down the line. Maybe it's simple anthropology... maybe it's an indicator of how relationships aren't supposed to last beyond a few months.
Are you suggesting we drop the Worried Nice Guy act and resume surprise anal during the midst of routine Wednesday missionary?
Men everywhere would be ecstatic to hear that news.