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There's two factors here.
First, you do have a landlord/tenant situation going.
Second, you are engaged to be married.
So either choice is valid for him. I don't think it's unfair of you to ask. But then it wouldn't be unfair of him to ask, well maybe we should consider splitting the house ownership.
If he chooses to be the 'tenant' here, then you have to accept it. It would be nice of him to help out, as your boyfriend. Also, it would mean he's looking to the future.
If he chooses to help you, as your boyfriend, then maybe it should be a 50/50 thing. That would also be a way for you both to face a future together.
Either way, I don't think you should just naturally expect him to give you the money. But there's nothing wrong with you asking, if you need the help.
I myself would only make that kind of request if I needed the help, or if we had a previous understanding that our mutual home belongs to us both, not just in theory, but in practice.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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