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genuinegirly · 08-25-2009, 06:03 PM

I'm sleepy. The answer that I want to give will make little-to-no sense.
When he catches that evasive fluffy thing for me and sets it gingerly in my arms so I can enjoy petting it as I fall asleep. Successful Cinnabunny hunts are a thumbs-up in my book. See? no sense at all. That was such a delightful thread starter - so fabulous, honestly. Thought-out and carefully worded. Even with those cute little ~ things. Then here I am ruining it by blathering about being handed a cuddling rabbit.

Ok, ok - so now that I've blathered I'll give you a productive answer.
I enjoy being with men that I've gotten to know well. Preferably men I have known for several years. I'm a big fan of trust. So my advice is more about bumping up from friendship to lover.
- giving me a potted red rose as a birthday gift
- asking me out for tea
- picking up a pint of my favorite flavor of ice cream along with his beer.
- mailing me messages written in code (preferably a new code for me to decipher)
- inviting me out for ice cream and a chick flick or documentary (I know they can't be that interested in it, but they know what makes me tick!)
- offering to drive me home when I expected to take the bus
- offering to teach me how to fly a kite
- inviting me to a little-known lecture given by a visiting professor
- telling me about a nearby waterfall or otherwise delightful hiking trail
- asking me if I want to go for a run, then remaining at my pace for the entire run
- venturing over from the business building to the botany building to "accidentally" catch me in the hall after my students have left office hours to ask a pointless biology question as an excuse to spend time with me

Things that most likely won't work:
- asking me out for a drink
- asking me out for something that costs them or me money
- bringing up an academic-based conversation while assuming that I study English or something equally insulting for a woman in the sciences
- telling me I'm pretty in a way that makes it sound like they never noticed previously
- asking me out the day after meeting me, assuming we haven't been forced to spend copious amounts of time working together
- gawking at me when I tell them what I study (any sort of surprise or a flurry of ignorant questions about my research will only make me want to puke)

08-25-2009, 06:03 PM	#3 (permalink)
genuinegirly Eat your vegetables Super Moderator Location: Arabidopsis-ville	I'm sleepy. The answer that I want to give will make little-to-no sense. When he catches that evasive fluffy thing for me and sets it gingerly in my arms so I can enjoy petting it as I fall asleep. Successful Cinnabunny hunts are a thumbs-up in my book. See? no sense at all. That was such a delightful thread starter - so fabulous, honestly. Thought-out and carefully worded. Even with those cute little ~ things. Then here I am ruining it by blathering about being handed a cuddling rabbit. Ok, ok - so now that I've blathered I'll give you a productive answer. I enjoy being with men that I've gotten to know well. Preferably men I have known for several years. I'm a big fan of trust. So my advice is more about bumping up from friendship to lover. - giving me a potted red rose as a birthday gift - asking me out for tea - picking up a pint of my favorite flavor of ice cream along with his beer. - mailing me messages written in code (preferably a new code for me to decipher) - inviting me out for ice cream and a chick flick or documentary (I know they can't be that interested in it, but they know what makes me tick!) - offering to drive me home when I expected to take the bus - offering to teach me how to fly a kite - inviting me to a little-known lecture given by a visiting professor - telling me about a nearby waterfall or otherwise delightful hiking trail - asking me if I want to go for a run, then remaining at my pace for the entire run - venturing over from the business building to the botany building to "accidentally" catch me in the hall after my students have left office hours to ask a pointless biology question as an excuse to spend time with me Things that most likely won't work: - asking me out for a drink - asking me out for something that costs them or me money - bringing up an academic-based conversation while assuming that I study English or something equally insulting for a woman in the sciences - telling me I'm pretty in a way that makes it sound like they never noticed previously - asking me out the day after meeting me, assuming we haven't been forced to spend copious amounts of time working together - gawking at me when I tell them what I study (any sort of surprise or a flurry of ignorant questions about my research will only make me want to puke) __________________ "Sometimes I have to remember that things are brought to me for a reason, either for my own lessons or for the benefit of others." Cynthetiq "violence is no more or less real than non-violence." roachboy Last edited by genuinegirly; 08-25-2009 at 06:15 PM..