I'm young and still have much to learn, but as my marriage is coming to an end, I'm starting to wonder if there's a point to marriage.
Divorce creates the most depressing, scary, disgusting feeling in my stomach, and I've been in this unhealthy mindset/emotional state for a while now.
I don't know if I want to marry again, at this point (granted, anything relationship-wise is the furthest thing from my mind at this point). Let's just say the legal marriage thing (at a courthouse) just seems to complicate life. I just want to be free, to be myself again, alone. To get away. And now I've signed this piece of paper, and I can't; not for a while, anyway, not until this whole process is over. If it's gonna be contested, it'll be even harder.
My parents got married about 7 years after their first child, and they're happy together. It's beautiful to see. So maybe, after an eventual long term relationship with a future SO, I'll start to see the benefits.
Currently, though, my thoughts on relationships is that the law should play no part in them. It should only be about love. And, like ngdawg said, it shouldn't be limited to a specific number of people. That's just a weird societal convention.
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