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It honestly sounds like she's dealing with depression. This isn't exactly an easy job market to make your way in, but it's not helping that she decided to dive full-tilt into a video game. If it is depression, she will need to come to that conclusion on her own and seek help.
In the meantime, she should be considering other options to be productive and not become a financial drain. She could start by actively supporting you by cooking on the cheap (you'll save money by not eating out) and seeing to all of the household duties so you don't have to deal with them when you come home. It may be an option for her to continue her education while contributing financially to your partnership by finding a graduate school program that offers a living stipend.
Something I'm not quite sure I gathered from your words - are you two sexually inactive because you are actively withholding affection? If so, you could be contributing to her depression.
Along the lines of the person who suggested to pull the plug on WoW - It would make sense, since things are financially tight, to cancel any cable and internet connection. You could start that conversation by saying, "times are really tight right now, and we can't get into debt. It would save us $xxx/month to discontinue our internet and cable tv. I think we should do it." WoW would be out of the picture, but you would be saving more cash than just the WoW subscription cost. Her job search might be limited by this option, but if there's a local library where she could access internet, she would still be able to check Monster or whatever services she's using to find a job. Being forced to visit the library to get to the internet would get both of you out of the house - not a bad thing overall.
An aside - What would happen to your visa status if you were to divorce?
It's something to consider.
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