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Originally Posted by Daniel_
Can I just point out that my parents got together at 17, and after over 40 years together split up.
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Ugh
. So sad.
I definitely don't know the specifics with your parents. But I'm sort of insinuating people just don't even try anymore. Divorce is more common than herpes and / or cold sores these days. But that's another thread altogether lol.
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Originally Posted by Suzz04
right on the words with the question of are you cheating on me will get a honest answer...
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I'm sorry :/.
It sounds like in some twisted way, he wanted you to catch him. He obviously has issues. And what keeps me moving forward is never forgetting how shitty karma can be.
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Originally Posted by Crompsin
Curiosity or not, snooping is violating the trust and privacy of your partner.
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But most people here are talking about willingly exchanging passwords and such. Is it actually 'snooping' anymore when this is done between two people?
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Originally Posted by Crompsin
Also: I've learned that the same people that snoop are the same people that don't want to go to marriage counseling.
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*loud buzzer*
You're way wrong there. At least in my case. I've always (I think,) been the one who wanted to work shit out. Even after catching them fucking me over with some other cu**, I never wanted to give up. I always throw myself into my relationships 364% without holding back. Walking away from them is extremely painful. As I was saying up above, it's like couples don't even try anymore. They just divorce without a second thought and bitch about it for the rest of their lives.
But don't get me wrong - I'm not saying divorce isn't always the wrong thing to do.
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Originally Posted by MSD
I won't carry on a serious relationship with someone I don't feel I can trust, and I have no problem being held to that same standard. If I snooped, how could someone trust me?
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Makes complete sense. However I just have trust issues period, thanks to my choices in men and my overall luck in the past. But they don't keep me from getting involved again. I can indeed love yet still have reservations.
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Originally Posted by MSD
Second, I think you're clinging to a romanticized Leave it to Beaver-style vision of how things were back then.
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I almost used that same exact metaphor in one of my posts lol.
And you're right. This is how I was raised. Little girls are supposed to grow up, get married, have babies and live happily ever after. But it's not that way anymore. Men and women alike have all turned into lazy and selfish pigs. Marriage means nothing sacred anymore. If it ain't working, just divorce. It's just a sign of the times. Call me old fashioned if you will. I call it having morals.
It's almost like you're on both sides of the fence though. You talk about how you won't be with anyone unless you trust them. Yet 'Leave It To Beaver' is passe.
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Originally Posted by Flinx
Because it would be a betrayal of trust. My wife has all my codes/pins for emergency use, I trust her to use them in that way only, not to use them to spy on me. To spy on a person means you don't trust them and what kind of relationship can survive without trust?
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Giving your significant other (especially a woman,) passwords to your personal email accounts is like leaving an opened package of Oreos in front of a 5-year-old lol. They're going to indulge. Fact.
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Man, this was a lot of quoting. I think I got everyone tho.
