My ex was 6'1" and between 260-400lbs. He cultivated that "big man" image to go along with his size. He also thought that he was healthy and strong as opposed to round and soft.
Until he ended up with diabetes, high blood pressure, and was turned down for life insurance.
Should you feel insulted that people find your physical presence comforting? I don't think so. But you should also consider that 5'10" and 300lbs is just not healthy. I remember being in that "not bothering" mode for almost a decade. I had a wake-up call with gestational diabete while pregnant and ended up dropping about 70lbs. Losing weight and getting healthier doesn't have to mean living on rabbit food and being miserable. I eat more now (weighing significantly less) because I do weight training and eat a lot of protein and veggies. I feel better. I'm stronger. I look better. I'll live longer.
Oh, and my ex went to Overeaters Anonymous and has dropped below 200lbs for the first time in his life. I should mention that he has struggled with his body image as he's used to being a physically intimidating presence and now he's just a guy. Perhaps your size makes *you* feel safe.
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