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Originally Posted by Psycho Dad
In her experience, children have never been taken away from even borderline fit parents. And the ones that have been were after repeated attempts to make the situation at home better.
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When I started this thread it was right after I found out what happened to my friend and I needed to rant. I understand that in some circumstances that kids get taken away after repeat offenses but in this case there was no way. My friend has an energetic accident pron 2 year old. I mean how many 2 year old's do you know that go longer then a couple of days without running into something or just falling. But the truth is I have no idea if she had taken her son in for another reason and a red flag came up. But I know her well enough to know that she would not hurt her son. And I don't know how things work where you are from but here they just need to suspect something and they will take over your lives.
Now a little more about my past. I had alcoholic parents that would always get into fights. When I was 8 I started stepping in to help my mom and got caught in the middle. My dad would start taking things out on me. DCFS was called many times, and sometimes I would be taken away. So I am on both ends of the spectrum. I understand how it could be a good thing, and then on the other had it can ruin families. I don't know if I got red flagged because of my past with my dad but they wouldn't even listen to me, like I was a monster that would hurt my 2 month old baby. I never felt more horrible in my life. What made me scared was they talked to me like they already thought I was guilty. I know DCFS is needed, I just think things need to change. I don't think parents should fear going to the hospital when there kids get hurt. I don't believe the whole "guilty tell proven innocent" analogy should be used the first time you go to the hospital, especially if there are no signs of abuse.