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A guy once did a "study" which basically found that the ideal relationship was between a man who was marginally more sexually dominant than the woman.
If the man was much more sexual, then the woman would get creeped out
If the man was less sexual then the woman would come to hold him in contempt
So the best partnership was when the men was just a bit more sexual than the woman
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In a lot of the relationships Ive been in I think Ive been probably a lot more sexual than the woman I was with, and tried to repess my feelings, and was filled with guilt about the fact I wasnt maybe really fulfilled.
Then again, although I like sex a lot Im really into only standard screwing, and not so much kinky stuff - so if like a girl wanted to do me up the arse with a strap on dildo or tie me up and spank me I'd run a mile.
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I dont think sexual conectivity is the be all and end of all of a relatinship, but its very important. I suspect the bit about the man having to be just a little dominant might be the bias of the (male) researcher... but I very firmly believe now that to be with someone you are very compatible with sexually is so crucial to a relationship
I dont mean that in a shallow way of saying "only date someone who is a 10/10 stunner" - but that its best to date with someone who wants sex about as much as you do, and without any major differences in style.
(although luckily for me I am dating a 10/10 girl right now, although Im a 5/10 kind of guy, so Im not sure how that part works for her... I think she must be attracted to my winning personality and cheeky smile - or else she's into big, strong, fat, unruly men...)
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hidden will not become manifest, and nothing covered will remain
without being uncovered."
The Gospel of Thomas
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