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Originally Posted by LoganSnake
Only because said guy is advocating unhappiness for both of them should the OP stay.
You would really stay in an unhappy marriage just because you took your vows? Say you tried everything, but the wife is just not responding and you begin to lose all kinds of feelings for her. She doesn't make you happy. Seeings her is a chore. You wake up every day feeling miserable. If you're a masochist (and somewhat of a sadist), then I can see you staying.
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...except that isn't what we are talking about here. We are talking about someone who started the entire thread with: "I think I want to have sex with other women, should I?" That isn't exactly "how do I know when I have done everything I can to save my marriage?" thread, now is it.
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Originally Posted by Punk.of.Ages
He's not a good husband, and it's not a healthy marriage. That's the point. They need to cut their losses and both find people who will treat them better.
This isn't about marriage, it's about happiness. Without happiness, a marriage is void anyhow...
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The difference between what I am saying and what you are saying is this: you say "he's not a good husband and it's not a healthy marriage, so leave." I say, "He's not a good husband, so until he fixes that, we don't know if it can be a healthy marriage or not." Start by giving everything, by truly submitting to your marriage. It's the only way to walk away with a clean heart (when/if) doesn't work out. I've always been amazed how much my situtation changes when I am willing to give more.