Two things:
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Polyamory's not all picnics and blowjobs, you know.
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This was the best line in the whole thread.
2) It's threads like this that make me wish for a Tilted Guys subforum. Not that female input here isn't appreciated, but sometimes the sum of their experiences does not adequately prepare them for the way that men are socialized, the way we "think" and the things we desire. It's no fault of theirs, as we're just as unaware of their cumulative experiences, but sometimes I see something that this Anonymous User would ask his male friends IRL if they were around, but not one he'd pose to his female friends. But when women (in my opinion) unfairly judge this sort of behavior as some kid just trying to get his rocks off, I just can't help but believe they just do not and will not understand the effect(s) of male socialization on our behavior in these sorts of situations. Furthermore, I find that the advice offered by men on these types of topics (both affirmative and negative) more effectively answer the "question."
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My only real input for the original poster is that "grass is greener" syndrome will happen everywhere you look, and it's very easy to get lost in the "what if?" People have this same sort of feeling about their jobs.. took it because they needed the money, been with the company 10 years now, work there because it's "easy", but wonder if there are other jobs out there they might like better. I'd wager about half the people are right, and the grass really is greener. And I'd wager that the other half was terribly wrong, and failed to measure all the 'perks' of their current job. The unfortunate part is we don't really know which 50% we're in until it happens. There's really no good advice we can give you, because we don't know any better than you whether the grass is really greener. It's up to you to decide how badly you want to discover which half you're in.