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Originally Posted by savmesom11
I have lived and learned just like you...self-righteous?!?! Yeah, it's obvious you know nothing about me...nor was I implying that my way is the only way...just because I take marriage seriously and people's self-worth and commitments to one another equally as serious does not make me self-righteous...it means I stand for something. Sorry for you...
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You're right I do know nothing about you, except what you post on this forum, which is what I replied to. When one poses the argument that because
they made it a certain amount of time without making that mistake, it's inexcusable for
anybody else to make that mistake, it comes off as very self-righteous in my eyes.
Don't be sorry for me. I'm doing just fine.
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Originally Posted by savmesom11
No I don't think someone should stay and be miserable or make someone else miserable just because they made a mistake when they weren't wise enough to know better BUT I also don't think it should just be an easy: "Well you settled and you were young and now that you know better lets just destroy other lives so you can get what you were always looking for." What's wrong with saying: " You should try to work it out with your wife first?" What's wrong with asking him to put some effort into the woman he committed his life too? If he tries and fails and he tries and fails or if she just doesn't meet him half way, well then sure you need to move forward you did all you could to fix the marriage....but until your exhausted from trying....YOU DIDN'T TRY HARD ENOUGH!
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As I said earlier, that is the right route to take
if he truly loves her and didn't simply settle. If that's not the case, this relationships over. Period.