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Anonymous Member · 07-30-2009, 01:46 PM

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If you're not happy, either take steps to make yourself happy, or leave. This is the only life you get, live to enjoy it.

Does this justify being an asshole? No, but if you don't put youself first, noone will.

Note: ABOVE NULL AND VOID IF YOU HAVE KIDS...they are priority now.

Talking with your spouse about opening up your marriage or taking a break is admirable and will probably come up in this thread, but if you're already sexually unhappy with your wife, you realistically don't have enough open and honest communication to pull off "Honey, I'm not happy with you, and want to dip my wick elsewhere, k?" without getting kicked in the ballzak.

Honestly? I suggest next time you're on a business trip, or she's out of town, have $300 socked away and hire yourself a nice high class escort. Be safe, wrap it up, make sure you pick someone with good reviews on theeroticreview board, and get it out of your system. NEVER tell her about it.

This is better than a fling because (if you do your research and choose wisely) you have a guaranteed good time, without the deception and time investment of having to cultivate some sort of relationship with this person outside of your hour or so together. If you choose someone with good reviews on TER instead of just cold calling someone off of backpage, the legal risk is so slim as to be laughable, and the disease risk is probably the same or lower as if you just met someone in a bar.

If that's enough to get your poonquest out of your system, great. If you still feel trapped for other emotional reasons, well, address them as best you can. I feel like this is the best solution to the question, however unpopular that opinion is likely to be.

07-30-2009, 01:46 PM	#4 (permalink)
Anonymous Member Addict	NOTE: THIS IS NOT THE SAME ANON MEMBER If you're not happy, either take steps to make yourself happy, or leave. This is the only life you get, live to enjoy it. Does this justify being an asshole? No, but if you don't put youself first, noone will. Note: ABOVE NULL AND VOID IF YOU HAVE KIDS...they are priority now. Talking with your spouse about opening up your marriage or taking a break is admirable and will probably come up in this thread, but if you're already sexually unhappy with your wife, you realistically don't have enough open and honest communication to pull off "Honey, I'm not happy with you, and want to dip my wick elsewhere, k?" without getting kicked in the ballzak. Honestly? I suggest next time you're on a business trip, or she's out of town, have $300 socked away and hire yourself a nice high class escort. Be safe, wrap it up, make sure you pick someone with good reviews on theeroticreview board, and get it out of your system. NEVER tell her about it. This is better than a fling because (if you do your research and choose wisely) you have a guaranteed good time, without the deception and time investment of having to cultivate some sort of relationship with this person outside of your hour or so together. If you choose someone with good reviews on TER instead of just cold calling someone off of backpage, the legal risk is so slim as to be laughable, and the disease risk is probably the same or lower as if you just met someone in a bar. If that's enough to get your poonquest out of your system, great. If you still feel trapped for other emotional reasons, well, address them as best you can. I feel like this is the best solution to the question, however unpopular that opinion is likely to be.