honesty is the best policy.
Women like being liked. So showing you're interested isn't some "loss of power" or "indication of being a loser", it just shows you're interested.
Call her up, be straight forward. If she waffles, it's as they say, maybe she's Just Not That Into You.
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Originally Posted by ratbastid
"Hi, it's me. Can I just get something out of the way first? I get all nervous and stupid talking to cute girls on the phone. I guess it's a stage fright thing. I just really want you to like me, and I end up coming across all forced and lame. So, will you just please forgive me in advance for being awkward and dumb on this call? Thanks."
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I have to say I think this is a terrible idea. It comes across as childish. To admit you're not good at something is a strength, but to go over the top and try to cover all of your "embarrassing bases" before you even jump in, shows a complete and total lack of confidence in what you're saying, and who you are. You're a man, and part of being a man is being aware of those weaknesses and accepting them; this sounds like you are terribly uncomfortable with them.
I'd say something more along the lines of "Hi, it's me. I need to get something out of the way first. I'm not great on the phone; it's not my thing. But talking to you and getting to know you are important to me, so forgive me in advance for being all kinds of awkward." Something like that leaves the door open to say something less stupid then, but similar to: "I'm much better in person; I'm a hand talker. How about dinner or coffee". It also shows you're straight forward, honest, and aware.