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If you're calling her cell phone (which seems obvious), she's going to know its you before she picks up. That, sir, is a victory right off the bat. She WANTS to talk to you. Even if you think I'm full of shit on the rest of this, I hope you'll at least realize that.
But I'm going to have to disagree with the ever-smooth ratbastid. You are selling here, pure and simple. Are you telemarketing her? Trying to convince her to buy a car warranty from you? No? THEN PUT THE SCRIPT DOWN! If you've got stage-fright (which is really what it is), then make an outline of what you want to talk about before hand and have it in front of you. Don't write out lines, just one or two word reminders of ideas. Do NOT be scripted. Nervous is fine, especially since you're asking her out. Have Plan B ready in case she's not available for Plan A. She's already met you, so she's well aware of how awesome you are.
Let the conversation flow. If her situation changes abruptly and she needs to go, call back later. I think asking sooner in the conversation is better than later for you, if for no other reason that it will get you past your initial apprehension and let you participate in something that's not one-sided.
If she doesn't pick up, leave a message saying you'll call her back the next day but don't leave any specifics (in other words, don't ask her out on a first date via voice mail). If she calls you back sooner, even better. If she doesn't, follow through the next day.
One thing that you should keep in mind is that she's just as human as you are. She's not unapproachable. She's not godlike (only Xerxys is godlike, and you see how busy he is down in his mom's basement with all those other women). Talk to her just like you did when you met her - you haven't transformed into a different person since then, so you don't need to change how you speak other than to make sure you're polite and respectful. If you're not, you run the risk of becoming Crompsin, only able to get dates by whacking them over the head and towing them back to his cave (although what he does with them in the cave is a mystery, what with the smooth spot and all).
But, really, in all seriousness, have a conversation. That's the whole point. Have a conversation. In the macro-picture, you two are selling each other on the idea that you'd make a good, dependable close friend (with hopefully some fluid swapping).
FYI - you probably want to wait until at least the 3rd date to reveal that you have a prehensile tail. Just sayin'...
note for posterity: this thread will probably get lots of google hits, so the post isn't written only for soma. Use it as you will.
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