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Old 07-28-2009, 12:59 PM   #55 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by SecretMethod70 View Post
So here's a crazy suggestion....

I think the heart of most people's problem with a strip club, especially for a guy who trusts his girlfriend, is the idea that viewing someone's naked body is special and somehow reserved.
This sounds right.


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Originally Posted by genuinegirly View Post
I tend to the idea that you're feeling sick not because your beautiful girlfriend is showing off to other men for cash, but rather you're bothered by the whole idea that she has to.
This sounds right, too.


I'm guessing there are multiple issues I'm facing here, rather than one, easily defined problem.

I've spent time watching her work at the club. What she does for others is not really her. It's an act, and not even all that sexual. What she does for me is really her. But I wonder if I do feel that some of things I considered 'special' between us are being trespassed on and this is what is bothering me.

And, yes, I am deeply bothered by her having to work at all for me. I always liked supporting her and I guess I don't really enjoy her working and me not. But to have her do THIS to support ME?

And, genuinegirly, how in the world do I get the loans out of her name? I didn't think this was possible unless I was approved independently for the loans, which my credit wouldn't allow. If you know some way I could get these transfered to me, solely, it would relieve an enormous burden.

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Originally Posted by Cimarron29414 View Post
Again, and with all due respect, I'm hearing a lot of excuses here. Yes, there are quacks, but you aren't in it for the advice. you are in it to get your hormones and chemicals back in balance - that what the (for example) Wellbutrin is for. I have known two chronically depressed people in life. Both said "It won't work for me" or "I've tried that, it doesn't work". Blah, blah, blah. Both medicated in less productive ways, and both are now dead. Don't deny yourself the help you (may) need over some misplaced principle.

If it is a taxation infraction (rather than a health/safety one), I would turn them in to the IRS. There is HUGE money in IRS whistle blowing...

It's not taxation or I would take your advice on that one.

I don't want to medicate. I've tried Seroquel before and the numbness was...horrible. I spent the entire time laying on my bed and praying for it to be over. I've always seen medication as a temporary fix to allow more productive therapy or allow time for a person to cope. Because a lot of my problems are situational I don't want to risk permanent alteration of my neurochemistry (or personality) to solve this. I just need to get things in order.

Again, though, I appreciate your input.
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