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Originally Posted by Cimarron29414
I'm just going to be honest here and say that right up until the brain aneurysm, all I read were a lot of excuses. The dog ate my homework. The only difference between your problems and everyone else's is that they are yours. You are letting life happen to you instead of happening to life. Everyone keeps saying your irritable bowel syndrome is due to your girlfriend stripping. It is more likely caused by the fact that you are not getting your shit together, and subconsciously, you know it. What seems like a big problem is really just a group of small problems clustered together. Let's get down to it:
Here's are some options
1) If you haven't already, get a medical deferrment for the Student Loans.
2) Sue the shit out of the driver that hit you. In most states, you have 3 years statute of limitations. Since you are 25, it seems the timeline fits within 3 years.
3) Start paying $10 / month on each medical bill. Medical offices will not sue you as long as you are "current" - meaning you pay something every month. Yes, I mean $10. After 5 to 10 years, the hospital will simply write off your debt and quit sending you bills. It happens all the time.
4) Apply for Social Security disability. This will require an attorney. S.S. will deny you at least twice before you are accepted. Keep trying.
5) Talk to your employer and get on track with them. Be honest and ask them how to get back to 40 hours. Set a plan. Your company may have an EAP that will get you some physical therapy for free.
6) Go see a counselor at the local clinic and get on an anti-depressant. Your hormones and chemicals are probably so out of whack that you might not be making rational decisions. You don't have to take it forever, just long enough to get everything straightened out.
7) Go outside and get exercise every day! Even if it is twice to the mailbox. Sunshine is your best fucking friend.
8) Before every shift, help your girlfriend get dressed and put on her makeup and hair. Get involved in her success and let her know she is supported.
9) After every shift, wake up and give your girlfriend a foot rub. She just wore the most uncomfortable shoes on the planet for 6 hours - for you.
10) Call your mom again. She's worried about you. Discuss your plan with her and ask her how you can help her.
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You make solid points. I've been stuck in a depressed rut for about a year. I'm tired of letting everything happen and not making more effort. Thank you for your comments. Following responses:
1. I will try.
2. My lawyer has stopped taking my calls. He's been blowing me off for months. And I've already been told that if I switch lawyers I will be charged for all of the time he has spent on this case.
3. Good idea.
4. Do you really think I can get disability? If I could receive it long enough to get through college that would be amazing.
5. I work 40 hours, but my company is not too happy with me. I found out that they have been encouraging us to break the law the entire time I've worked there and I made a fuss about it to a manager. I'm about to be fired for breaking their new attendance policy that no longer excuses medical absences. They don't really care about the employees. I'm sending out resumes to try to get into something a little more employee friendly.
6. I'm freaked out about anti-depressants and I don't really trust the mental health care community at large.
7. Until the mono bout I was exercising three to five times a week, and at least once a month hiking in the park for a few hours.
8. The make-up idea is cute. I may have to try that.
9. I do rub her feet at night.
10. I talk to my mother at least three times a week.