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genuinegirly · 07-27-2009, 11:27 AM

My sis and mom are nearly inseperable, but that has more to do with caring for sis's kids than any desire on my sister's part to remain close. Our brother broke free from the family when he was about 19 - talk to him once every few months, see him once a year or so. We enjoy our time together, but he appreciates his space and we respect that. Mom gets a bit freaked if she doesn't hear my voice every two weeks or so: usually concerned that I don't like her rather than worrying if I'm ok or not. She worries that I don't like her because I will speak with my sister more frequently - a few times/week. I speak to Daddy once a month or so - he and Mom are still together so he gets updates on my life from her and calls it good.

My husband's family is quite close, he speaks to his father nearly every day and his mother weekly. Tt speaks to his father more frequently because Tt is the IT guy for his father's business. He'll also frequently speak on the phone with one brother who is a file clerk at his dad's office. His father can't survive a day without talking to Tt. All of his brothers keep in touch with mom and she updates all the sons on each other. Occasionally he will get a call from one of his brothers or another, they'll talk for hours - never a regular set time, though - maybe once every three months.

I do believe that my husband's family is a bit too close to be healthy - but they are far more independent than the scenarios that you have described.

07-27-2009, 11:27 AM	#16 (permalink)
genuinegirly Eat your vegetables Super Moderator Location: Arabidopsis-ville	My sis and mom are nearly inseperable, but that has more to do with caring for sis's kids than any desire on my sister's part to remain close. Our brother broke free from the family when he was about 19 - talk to him once every few months, see him once a year or so. We enjoy our time together, but he appreciates his space and we respect that. Mom gets a bit freaked if she doesn't hear my voice every two weeks or so: usually concerned that I don't like her rather than worrying if I'm ok or not. She worries that I don't like her because I will speak with my sister more frequently - a few times/week. I speak to Daddy once a month or so - he and Mom are still together so he gets updates on my life from her and calls it good. My husband's family is quite close, he speaks to his father nearly every day and his mother weekly. Tt speaks to his father more frequently because Tt is the IT guy for his father's business. He'll also frequently speak on the phone with one brother who is a file clerk at his dad's office. His father can't survive a day without talking to Tt. All of his brothers keep in touch with mom and she updates all the sons on each other. Occasionally he will get a call from one of his brothers or another, they'll talk for hours - never a regular set time, though - maybe once every three months. I do believe that my husband's family is a bit too close to be healthy - but they are far more independent than the scenarios that you have described. __________________ "Sometimes I have to remember that things are brought to me for a reason, either for my own lessons or for the benefit of others." Cynthetiq "violence is no more or less real than non-violence." roachboy Last edited by genuinegirly; 07-27-2009 at 11:38 AM..