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UnclearContent · 07-27-2009, 07:38 AM

Thank you for the responses, all.

My biggest hang-up in all of this is this is currently our best option to give her a chance at a successful school life. The job doesn't stress her much and she can easily pay her way to her real career.

I'm not one to make decisions based on emotionality alone. I always think things through before making a big decision. Because of this I'm stuck with my mind telling me one thing and my varied organs telling me another.

The oogling bothers me. The lax security there bothers me. The drug use and prostitution (not an assumption, I know for a fact both go on heavily in that club and my girl does as well) bother me. But I don't want to tell her to give up everything she's working for and set herself back a few years financially.

I'm worried that if I weren't in such a financial bind that I would have already pulled plug. I'm afraid of my mother being sued for my student loans and losing her home. At this point I feel that I'm pimping my girlfriend out to pay my bills and no part of it feels right.

We both have medical issues and can not work multiple jobs. This job lets her make her own schedule and make as much as if she working 60-80 hours a week at a 'normal' job.

She has told me our relationship is more important in this situation than anything else. I love her; I don't want to compromise her goals and ambitions because I'm just bothered about her current job. We're trying to make a life together and her doing this will solve both of our financial crises and get us going.

I'm stuck.

I'm sorry if this sounds like a repeat of the OP. I appreciate all of the responses given so far. I just wanted to add a little detail and see what people have to think. My girlfriend and I are both reading all of these and discussing them.

07-27-2009, 07:38 AM	#8 (permalink)
UnclearContent Tilted	Thank you for the responses, all. My biggest hang-up in all of this is this is currently our best option to give her a chance at a successful school life. The job doesn't stress her much and she can easily pay her way to her real career. I'm not one to make decisions based on emotionality alone. I always think things through before making a big decision. Because of this I'm stuck with my mind telling me one thing and my varied organs telling me another. The oogling bothers me. The lax security there bothers me. The drug use and prostitution (not an assumption, I know for a fact both go on heavily in that club and my girl does as well) bother me. But I don't want to tell her to give up everything she's working for and set herself back a few years financially. I'm worried that if I weren't in such a financial bind that I would have already pulled plug. I'm afraid of my mother being sued for my student loans and losing her home. At this point I feel that I'm pimping my girlfriend out to pay my bills and no part of it feels right. We both have medical issues and can not work multiple jobs. This job lets her make her own schedule and make as much as if she working 60-80 hours a week at a 'normal' job. She has told me our relationship is more important in this situation than anything else. I love her; I don't want to compromise her goals and ambitions because I'm just bothered about her current job. We're trying to make a life together and her doing this will solve both of our financial crises and get us going. I'm stuck. I'm sorry if this sounds like a repeat of the OP. I appreciate all of the responses given so far. I just wanted to add a little detail and see what people have to think. My girlfriend and I are both reading all of these and discussing them.