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Originally Posted by Katyanna
I knew a couple that went through a similar thing, she always seemed to want another. Though they both actually managed to hold jobs outside of the home, working their hours around the children and eliminating daycare. Last I heard from them they had 7 children...
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I read over and over and over again that many women think a man that doesn't want kids or won't marry can' love them. This is ridiculous.
I had 8 male friends - none of which wanted kids right away and their g/f's or wives got pregnant anyway. 5 of the 8 took off and I don't blame them.
My own wife wanted 12 kids - she didn't tell me that before we got married - in fact she said we'd wait a few years and just enjoy each other. 2 months in she started talking about getting pregnant and informed me that she was going to get a baby with my help or without it.
I left her and we later divorced. We were just on very different paths in life and we all just have one life to live.
I then got a girlfriend and we had a great relationship for 3 years before she decided that if I wouldn't marry her, I didn't love her.
That was nonsense - being married doesn't make a person love another more than not being married.
The fact is - many women change after they are married and often the babies will come - whether you want them or not. Many women feel compelled to have babies and will do anything, including punching holes in a condom or going to a bar to get pregnant. It's a strong urge and the only way you can protect yourself from it is to get a vasectomy and NEVER get married. If you don't and she gets pregnant - you're still legally responsible to support for the next 19 years and involvement for 25 or so - to support that child you never wanted. And the wife won't be a wife anymore and the sex will dry up - until she wants yet another baby and it could be a constant demand.
I started the website Male Action Network (MAN) to discuss this very thing and advise all men who aren't sure they want kids - as to what to do. Do a google search for "a man's dreams and a woman's agenda" and it will come up.
Good luck guys - this is most of the best years of your adult life you would be giving up. It's much better to just keep the v a secret and get new girlfriends when the old ones get too difficult.
MajorHart
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Originally Posted by Redlemon
Wow, that's a whole lot of bitter there, MajorHart.
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Not bitter at all - just realistic and a learner from the experiences I've had and my friends have had.