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What do you consider a healthy relationship?
To me a healthy relationship is a ever changing goal that is mutually worked upon. Yeah so that description is clear as mud but it is hard to define. My relationship with my husband has complete open communication (even about pooping), honesty and respect. I think those are the three ingredients to a healthy relationship. Realizing that both people in the relationship change and therefore the relationship will change as well is very important to remember. It is also wise to keep realistic expectations for a healthy relationship.
How much sex does it involve?
A healthy relationship involves sex of course. That specific number can never be nailed down to just one digit for all people everywhere. I think keeping a general level of intimacy alive through non-sexual specific touching and interaction is important.
Does it include marriage?
For my husband and I, our relationship includes marriage. Marriage is a commitment to one another that should be respected but if the building blocks of a healthy relationship, married or not, aren't there, calling each other husband and wife and being married in the eyes of the state isn't going to save a relationship. Not all healthy relationships should be expected to be life long.
Do you find you're able to develop a better relationship with the opposite sex or the same sex?
I have always made friendships better with the opposite sex. Most people say you can't have opposite sex friends without complications but I have been able to do it.
Have you ever been in a truly healthy relationship, or do you just dream?
I am in a truly healthy relationship now with my husband. It is the first for both of us so we are making up the rules that work for us as we go along.
If you have a healthy one, do you feel obligated to share your secrets on keeping a healthy relationship with your friends who ask how you do it?
If someone were to ask me for advice, I would give them a more detailed answer from the first question. I would shy away from giving more intimate details unless I know the person very well. Those details are what make my relationship with my husband special and I like to cling to them myself.
Relationships aren't magical. They can't cure cancer, solve world hunger or travel in time. They can be a bright spot in our shared journey of life. We can expect great things from them. Relationships can provide love, peace, joy, laughter. I am an optimist when it comes to intimate relationships. Not all relationships will last for life.
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"Mommy, the presidents are squishing me!"
"Using the pull out method of contraceptive is like saying I won't use a seat belt, I'll just jump out of the car before it hits that tree."
Sara
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