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little_tippler · 07-19-2009, 12:37 PM

I was chatting with friends a while ago and we were talking about situations that happened to us as teenagers. Specifically, we were recalling some of the weird things boys would do to each other to prove they were 'men's men'. To this day I remember being horrified by some of them.

One particular activity involved groups of guys ganging up on one other guy and carrying him in their arms (while the guy yelled and squirmed in terror) to a tree, where they would proceed to ram him, and his junk, against the tree, repeatedly. This was called, 'ir ao poste' (going to the pole). They would do it to each other in plain view of everyone at school (minus teachers), and us girls were horrified and would wince. It must have been painful. One friend told me he knew a guy who became sterile from this stupid prank. No kidding. They just went for it too hard and the guy had to go to hospital. I can't imagine how he must have felt after.

Another friend told me that another thing his friends did was, one guy would take very deep breaths until he felt faint and then another would come and punch him hard, square in the chest, and the first guy would pass out. This is pretty nasty!

I know between girls there are also some things done like this, though luckily I have never experienced it. Except for the occasional slighting or bullying, I never had any of this.

I think hazing is horrible. It seems to be a part of growing up to some degree. It scares me to think about my kids having to experience that.

Have you ever experienced this kind of situation? How did you deal with it? Did you ever haze someone else? What do you think about this kind of 'ritual' practice?

I think it must be really hard for men, having to cope with this probably on a much higher scale than women.

07-19-2009, 12:37 PM	#1 (permalink)
little_tippler Leaning against the -Sun- Super Moderator Location: on the other side	Hazing I was chatting with friends a while ago and we were talking about situations that happened to us as teenagers. Specifically, we were recalling some of the weird things boys would do to each other to prove they were 'men's men'. To this day I remember being horrified by some of them. One particular activity involved groups of guys ganging up on one other guy and carrying him in their arms (while the guy yelled and squirmed in terror) to a tree, where they would proceed to ram him, and his junk, against the tree, repeatedly. This was called, 'ir ao poste' (going to the pole). They would do it to each other in plain view of everyone at school (minus teachers), and us girls were horrified and would wince. It must have been painful. One friend told me he knew a guy who became sterile from this stupid prank. No kidding. They just went for it too hard and the guy had to go to hospital. I can't imagine how he must have felt after. Another friend told me that another thing his friends did was, one guy would take very deep breaths until he felt faint and then another would come and punch him hard, square in the chest, and the first guy would pass out. This is pretty nasty! I know between girls there are also some things done like this, though luckily I have never experienced it. Except for the occasional slighting or bullying, I never had any of this. I think hazing is horrible. It seems to be a part of growing up to some degree. It scares me to think about my kids having to experience that. Have you ever experienced this kind of situation? How did you deal with it? Did you ever haze someone else? What do you think about this kind of 'ritual' practice? I think it must be really hard for men, having to cope with this probably on a much higher scale than women. __________________ Whether we write or speak or do but look We are ever unapparent. What we are Cannot be transfused into word or book. Our soul from us is infinitely far. However much we give our thoughts the will To be our soul and gesture it abroad, Our hearts are incommunicable still. In what we show ourselves we are ignored. The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged By any skill of thought or trick of seeming. Unto our very selves we are abridged When we would utter to our thought our being. We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams, And each to each other dreams of others' dreams. Fernando Pessoa, 1918 Last edited by little_tippler; 07-19-2009 at 03:21 PM..