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[i]...and then when we come back a lot of distrust seems to have sprung up between us. Like she questioned if I was just with her for the sex, things like she doesn't trust me so much anymore. [/B]
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This is a good reason not to knock boots before marriage, but that's another thread. Anyhow, sounds like intimacy, man. She wants to be the first person you go to to talk about stuff, and she wants to feel like you trust her enough to let her in so close that she gets all of the exclusives. Problem is, rather than being mature enough to actually TALK about all of this and make the relationship move in the direction she wants, she feels put out so she takes away your nesting priviledges to punish you for keeping her out of the loop. I see two approaches. You can sit down with her, talk to her and let her know that you do not intuitively know what is important for her to hear about, and what isn't, but that you trust her and want to let her in on all of the things she is interested in. Unfortunately chicks think we should be mind readers. The second approach would be to play it cool, take what she has to dish out as if it isn't any kind of punishment for you. You need to reach a point of caring disinterest. Let her know that you really love having her in your life, and that she means whatever she means to you, but never let on like you need her. It'll give you upper hand, and it'll drive her nuts.