LAW2

My wife and I are having problems. We have been married for 9 years and have been together for 16. This year has been bad with increased debt, less pay, the stress of two children, her going back to work, etc. I ignored her feelings and needs and buried myself in my work. She warned me that I was losing her, but I was too stupid to actually hear what she was saying to me. Now I know.

I have done a total 180 and have pulled myself back into the family and bettered myself. She says I now do everything she wanted me to do back then, but her feelings for me have changed. She loves me but is not in love with me anymore. We have been to counseling a few times and she still has some resentment towards me. She prefers not to think about it and survive day by day, but I’m afraid we won’t get any better. We have long talks and cry a lot when we do so there are still feelings there. Neither one of us has ever cheated on the other.

I know marriages ebb and flow, but I don’t think most get to this point. If I didn’t tell you these things you would never know this about us. We still kiss (peck on the lips), say I love you, sleep in the same bed, do things for each other, encourage one another, and do stuff with the kids together.

I love my wife, I really do. I love my kids. I want her to be in love with me again and I want to live the rest of my life with her.

My question is in your experience do you think that’s possible?