joeyaz

A reply in another thread got me thinking.. Has anyone here had any success with online dating?

I can't say I go out to bars to meet women I'm sorta just there and hoping someone will come up too me, don't laugh its happened a few times lol

I'm just not really a guy who goes up to women and starts conversation, maybe its a lack of confidence or something else. I think I could have some success but I still can't do it so I figured I'd try something like eharmony, it would seem like online dating would be good for a guy like me and I can say that is somewhere I actually am trying to meet someone and not being a shy guy. I'm 2 months into a 3 month plan, I had found a coupon for like 29.99 for 3 months online so I that wasn't too bad.

It was exciting, the commercials had me convinced that the one was here on this site looking for me. I put some effort into my profile and I was off. I felt so optimistic, I had recently gotten out of a LDR and I was looking to meet some people.

The first girl I went through all the steps with amazing when we met I was like wow this girl I possibly out of my league. She was successful, ambitious, really intelligent. We had a couple dates and then one day out of the blue she said she was getting back with her ex. Her profile picture was a pic of her and her ex, she had told me it was her cousin. How do I know? Cause the day she cut it off with me I saw her at the club with her "cousin" dancing and making out.


The next girl was pretty nice also we had a couple dates and then she also flaked out. She texted me that basically said that being with me made her realize she wasn't over her ex yet and and just wanted to see what the site was like.. I just wished her luck and never txted her again.

Then I went through a period where I would communicate with a bunch of women but I didn't really feel the chemistry to want to meet them and things just fizzled.

I meet a couple of other girls who I seemed to have some chemistry with and tried to meet with but they were just content to be txt buddies and sent me a couple of unsolicited naughty pics.. lol whats the point of all that if your not trying to meet? So I let those go.

I met this one girl who I found attractive from her pictures and we got along pretty good and it took along time but I was able to wrangle a meeting out of her and it she didn't look like her pictures at all and didn't even bother to "dress" up for out date and I felt a distinct lack of chemistry in person so I told her that at the end of the date and we said goodbye.

The next girl I met totally misrepresented herself.. she was kinda aggressive and insisted I go to her house to pick her up... I felt kinda weird like I would prefer meeting in a public place but i went. She kinda insisted I come inside and her place was a total mess.. that was a turn off and then she wanted to drive to a place and was cussing at some guy having a fit of road rage.. so awkward ... worst date i been on. I kinda blew off her after that.


I just had a meeting on Thursday with someone and she didn't look like her pictures at all either! She is nice but I got the friend vibe, but she is interested and I couldn't bring it to break it to her that I wasn't interested since she was so nice. I know its better that I do it instead of leading her on.

I am talking to a couple of the girls on there now and only one I can see meeting up with. She looks pretty and we have really good chemistry in our email exchanges so we will see what happens, I'm excited to read her emails and look forward to writing her back. She might be the last one I try to meet before my membership expires.

I might come across as some pig looking for a model, but I'm really not. I feel that I need to be attracted to someone. I'm looking for something serious and I wouldn't date someone who is beautiful and not very intelligent, so it goes both ways. Is it wrong to want a "total" package?

So anyone have any good stories to tell me? My optimistic thoughts are on life support lol

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