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Originally Posted by The_Jazz
I once went for a run down the main street of Gainesville, FL naked at 4:30 in the morning.
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So... hey... what was your 4 mile time?
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Young love knows no bounds... except car rides, phone calls, and texts at 3 AM.
Numerous egghead scientists in pristine white lab coats with big bushy Nietzsche 'staches have conclusively shown that, within two standard deviations, cherry college kids are incapable of maintaining LDRs. So don't do it. Don't try it. Don't even think about it. It's all bad and your mother shoulda warned you. It's totally happened to all of us. I dated a girl that lived 90 minutes away for a year... then I upgraded to a girl that lived on the other side of the country. Both were a huge waste of time / effort / money for Teen Crompsin. I was looking for company, conversation, and carnal pleasure... I learned those can be had anywhere. Far better to explore the pool of potential voomen you're currently in over attempting to commute for just one who's clearly gonna be busy.
OP, brother, we gotta talk. This long distance relationship thing is totally not something you should be getting into. It's like sick puppy syndrome for both parties... it's cute for about 20 seconds, then it's akin to cell time with Hannibal Lecter. Nothing says FAIL bigger than a college kid in a LDR. One side will inevitably cave to the "This is a waste of my time," monster. You can't be there for her, she can't be there for you... and lemme tell ya something I learned real good as I was signing divorce paperwork in the middle of the desert:
if you can't be there in the beginning, you're no good. LDRs are tough but doable (and often necessary) for couples that have been together for extended periods of time. Career, family, additional schooling make Adult LDRs happen.
As you said yourself: you're young and inexperienced. Remedy that first. You need to get on a free dating site (OkCupid.com / PlentyOfFish.com) or cultivate a hobby / activity (karate / ceramics) where you can meet girls your age or a little older who live no further than (maybe) 45 minutes away. Think new activities and new people (not just girls, not just bipedal sexual favor dispensers) over relationships. Don't enter a date expecting round two. Hell, based on my experience despite my level of ineptitude... you'll probably end up in the sack with half of them on the third date. You're 19... don't even tell me that isn't your real goal underneath that hormonal tsunami you call feelings.
Best way to get experience is fail, fail, fail. Go out on a dozen shitty dates. Stick to being yourself at all times. It's hard, but you'll develop experience in knowing what you want and the circumstances that make it worthwhile. Don't step over the potential winners in your back yard on your way out to look for something down the highway.