I will say...when I was younger I really didn't *get* how important sex was to men. I also wasn't that into giving oral. As I got older, I realized that sex is how most men show affection in a long-term relationship. It's how they bond, de-stress, re-connect, etc. Somewhere after 6-7 years of marriage, I made it a point to make an effort with sex. I learned to love giving oral. I initiated as often as he did.
But it took me *years* to get to that point.
It wasn't that I was selfish, I really just didn't know.
If this issue is getting to the point where you're seriously contemplating ending the relationship over it, then that's a communication problem. I can't see a woman who loves her partner not being willing to reach out a bit more to save the relationship. If she decides that what you're asking is too much, better to know now. But she also needs to know how serious this is so she can react accordingly.
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