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Originally Posted by thelifeandtimes
We were sitting on the couch talking about sex, but we were out of condoms, so I suggested other ways of pleasing each other. She looks me in the eyes after I say that, knowing full well I was referring to oral, and says "What do I get out of it?" That comment right there made me slam my brakes on. Before she even said that I made it clear I wasn't just talking about her going down on me. I can deduce from that statement that she doesn't really enjoy giving oral for the simple fact that the pleasure isn't happening to us both at the same time.
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Actually, it sounds to me that she isn't big into RECEIVING it, and wants to know what she's going to get minus oral. I really don't think it has much to do with her giving. I would do the same thing if I wasn't feeling especially randy and wanted to make sure I got something. But, I would also make it known that I wasn't that into receiving.
So, what do you do?
Browse some sex sites, maybe some porn if you can. Find some ways that you can please her without going down on her. You may even look into some toys. Experimentation is key here because it seems like maybe you guys haven't fully found yourselves (sexually). Then, next time you are without condoms (or you just want to play), start on her with something you have found that seems like it may work for you guys. Get her excited and then see about the oral. You can (in a more teasing tone, it works better) prohibit her from jumping to the sex.
Besides, even if you don't get the oral, I can almost guarantee that all the new foreplay will make the sex pretty fucking awesome.