Thanks for the replies everyone. This week hasn't helped the situation at all. We were sitting on the couch talking about sex, but we were out of condoms, so I suggested other ways of pleasing each other. She looks me in the eyes after I say that, knowing full well I was referring to oral, and says "What do I get out of it?" That comment right there made me slam my brakes on. Before she even said that I made it clear I wasn't just talking about her going down on me. I can deduce from that statement that she doesn't really enjoy giving oral for the simple fact that the pleasure isn't happening to us both at the same time. Since then, its kind of stuck with me and has started making me question whether or not we are truly sexually compatible. We were fine when we first met as we were younger and still figuring ourselves out sexually, but its becoming more apparent that something in the bedroom isn't clicking anymore.
The question that is now raised is if everything in the relationship works and is good with the exception of sex, do you stay and try and work through it, or is it truly a valid reason to leave? I love her to death and I can't imagine being with someone else, but this whole sex thing just has me concerned. We've been together 3 years, I don't want to imagine where we could be in the bedroom in 10. I feel as if I have told her what I want and need to feel satisfied and that it is not asking a lot at all, and its starting to feel as if its going in one ear and out the other.
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Originally Posted by genuinegirly
If she just gets too excited and therefore jumps into intercourse, well then, that's kind of exciting isn't it? Talking about this more sounds like an entirely productive way to go.
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I know she gets too excited for sure, but like I said, I love that what I do makes her that excited so fast, but sometimes intercourse isn't everything you know?