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Our 23 year old son checked himself in to the emergency room to get help and detox off of oxicoton and heroin. He ended up in a detox center and for the first time all the people closest to him were on the same page and got honest with ourselves and each other. It wont work if there is a weak link with the people who are making themselves feel better by supporting his addictions, lies, inappropriate behaviors, and his demise. We, my husband and I, have allowed our son to continue his destruction in our home for years. We can never seem to get on the same page when it comes to honesty and standing strong together, it's been heartbreaking and hell. This time my sons loved ones came together and decided that we had enough. For the last two years I had to surrender and go along with the same bad behaviors. We gave him money often, made excuses for him, argued over what was right and what was wrong for him, on and on and on, a never ending battle. I called the detox center and got in touch with his sponsor, since he had put my name down on the emergency contact I was legally allowed to speak to his counselor. We set up an intervention on the phone with the counselor and one by one we told him that his way wasn't working and all of us together were finished unless he continued with long-term treatment. We are attending Alanon meetings and supporting each other to remain strong. My son really lost it when his fiance told him she was finished and moving to another state. She now has changed her mind and told him she would be open to a relationship if he got some long term sobriety. She is the weak link at this point and he is manipulating her. Tomorrow I will turn her on to this site, it might help.
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