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robot_parade · 06-28-2009, 08:56 PM

Ok. So this has bothered me for awhile, and I'm curious as to other TFPers take.

I want potty time to be private time. I don't want my wife around when I'm doing my business, and I don't want to be around (or hear it) when she does hers.

Yes, I know Girls Poop. Basic biology. But I simply don't want to experience it. My wife doesn't agree...we've talked about this, and she thinks I'm being over-sensitive. I feel it's along the same lines as the old saying 'familiarity breeds contempt'.

I've talked to her about it, and she's changed her habits a little bit. She at least will leave me alone when I'm doing my business, and close the door when I walk in while she's doing hers. Before she would walk in and try to have a conversation with me while I was 'busy', and leave the door wide open while she was occupied.

It also helps that we've moved. The old layout had my side of the bed directly facing the master bathroom door. So...I would go to bed. She would go in the bathroom, leave the door open. Plop. Plop. Plop. The new layout has a bathroom, and a separate door for the 'potty room'. She (usually) will close one door or the other.

Like I said, I had a few talks with her, and while she still thinks I'm being stupid, she's improved from my POV.

The problem is, it's not enough. Usually, I go to bed before her, and she'll come in, leave both doors open, and do her business. Which I get to listen to, even though I'd rather not. My preference would be to close the 'potty room' door, turn on the fan (which will improve the smell situation as well), and do her business in private.

Am I being oversensitive? Should I have another Conversation with her? Or just live with it? It doesn't help that she treats it as if I'm being completely picky and oversensitive.

06-28-2009, 08:56 PM	#1 (permalink)
robot_parade Junkie Location: San Antonio, TX	Potty time with the SO Ok. So this has bothered me for awhile, and I'm curious as to other TFPers take. I want potty time to be private time. I don't want my wife around when I'm doing my business, and I don't want to be around (or hear it) when she does hers. Yes, I know Girls Poop. Basic biology. But I simply don't want to experience it. My wife doesn't agree...we've talked about this, and she thinks I'm being over-sensitive. I feel it's along the same lines as the old saying 'familiarity breeds contempt'. I've talked to her about it, and she's changed her habits a little bit. She at least will leave me alone when I'm doing my business, and close the door when I walk in while she's doing hers. Before she would walk in and try to have a conversation with me while I was 'busy', and leave the door wide open while she was occupied. It also helps that we've moved. The old layout had my side of the bed directly facing the master bathroom door. So...I would go to bed. She would go in the bathroom, leave the door open. Plop. Plop. Plop. The new layout has a bathroom, and a separate door for the 'potty room'. She (usually) will close one door or the other. Like I said, I had a few talks with her, and while she still thinks I'm being stupid, she's improved from my POV. The problem is, it's not enough. Usually, I go to bed before her, and she'll come in, leave both doors open, and do her business. Which I get to listen to, even though I'd rather not. My preference would be to close the 'potty room' door, turn on the fan (which will improve the smell situation as well), and do her business in private. Am I being oversensitive? Should I have another Conversation with her? Or just live with it? It doesn't help that she treats it as if I'm being completely picky and oversensitive.