yeah the best thing you can do sometimes in life, and our whole lives we are brainwashed to feel differently, is not to try. Or, in this case, focus your attention on something that will help you progress further in life, rather then restrict your growth. Stuff like forcing personality traits on yourself, no matter how desirable the trait, will constantly result in two things:
1) You're going to be uncomfortable with it and ultimately unhappy.
2) Women, I'm convinced they are the smartest creatures on earth, will see through your feeble attempt to seem interesting and leave.
And it all comes down to what Mart and Cromp have been saying: confidence man. Confidence. And where does confidence come from? Being comfortable. Knowing the beast before you strike it means it's just part of life, and not some epic battle.
My biggest observation of men around my age is that they think the beast in that metaphor is women, when really it's yourself.
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Just keep at it.
Truly nice guys don't finish last.
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To add, I love GG. A lot. She has a way of using a couple of words and getting across exactly what I want to say. I'm always worried some minimalist comment won't get through to someone (that's something I'M working on). And I may be misinterpreting what she is saying, in fact I know I am, but her sentiment fits what I'm trying to get across.
The word "truly" is TRULY inspired [ba dum csh]. Truly implies Truthfully. And my question is, although I feel like I already know the answer, is how truthful are you actually being with these women? I don't mean do they fit the person you are when you're being 'social', I mean do they fit the person you are when no one is around. When you are at home enjoying something. Are those the things that lead your life? Is that what you build your social life around? Because, if not, and I suspect this is where your problem lies, you are going to feel "out of place" or "like I've lost" all the time. If WOW is your thing, it makes sense that meeting some high maintenance girl, with a penchant for shopping and going out to bars most likely (I won't COMPLETELY generalize the two people) won't be what you need, but because she's pretty and dresses in expensive clothing you melt.
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I am a musician. Crompsin shoots things. thespian86 puts on make-up and sings show tunes, and gets more tail than the rest of us put together.
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Quoted for truth sir. You know why? I do a mean Dagger, have whiskey soaked tenor tones, and trained in contemporary dance for years. All of those things, when I left football for theatre, were "gay" and "stupid" and "[enter derogatory word that teen males use to keep each other down]". But I thought, fuck them, I like what I do. In fact, in my mind, it's the first thing that matters. Even if Mandy Moore (number one on my list of five) were to hit on me, and I was in the middle of rehearsal, I'd flirt back but my focus wouldn't be on impressing her after we spoke, it would be on creating my best work. That's probably one of my only admirable qualities.
And that is what men do. Nice men do it without making other people feel burned.