noodle

settle has such a negative connotation in most circles. unless you mean settling in for the long haul. my ex felt like he was settling with me. because there were certain things that he wanted that i could not provide. now, they don't typically all exist within one person for the most part, but that's his issue, not mine. when people paint this rosy view of how life should look for them, 90% of the time they are going to end up at some point feeling as if they settled or gave up an ideal somewhere.
it's the realistic of us that love someone and choose to be with them with and without their faults, because of their differences that aren't disappointed daily with their choice of partner and relationship. those who choose to have their relationship evolving continuously to meet the needs of both parties. those who choose not to, will likely feel that they are settling.
i actually feel at this point that any relationship i have in the near future will feel like settling for awhile because of the way our systems idealize and romanticize past relationships for a time. after awhile that will fade. luckily, i'm not jumping on that boat annnnnny time soon. i'd rather settle down than feel like i settled for.

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