levite

I gotta kind of concur with Martian and Crompsin.

Listen, dude. I am a nice guy, and I used to finish last a lot. I have so been there. When I was young (high school, college, and thereabouts), I lost a mess of girls to hesitation, lack of self-confidence, and an unwillingness to be proactive in my dating strategies. These things changed when I (a) studied acting, (b) learned the broadsword, and (c) began writing poetry. Acting taught me self-confidence and self-acceptance-- and nothing makes a girl more want to change your mind than you appearing to be just fine without her. The broadsword taught me fearlessness and strength, and gave me one hell of a quirky hobby to mention. And chicks dig poetry, and men sensitive enough to write it and be unashamed fans of the art.

You have to focus on self-acceptance, self-confidence, and having things in your life that you do that are fun, that build skills, that occupy your time, and that give you a more well-rounded personality. Be yourself, only aggressively so, unashamedly so, and have fun doing so. Chicks will seek you out.

How do I know that works? Because I am engaged to marry an awesome, hot, smart chick, whom I just shagged like a 60s carpet. Trust me: that is what works.

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Dull sublunary lovers love,
Whose soul is sense, cannot admit
Absence, because it doth remove
That thing which elemented it.

(From "A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning" by John Donne)