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I have been in the 'let's go hang out with my ex, she's really nice' situation. I did it. My ex and his ex ended up cheating on me later on in the relationship. Boy did I feel stupid. Never again.
It's ok if you run in to an ex and do small talk. But to go purposely to meet an ex, fuck that. I'm in the 'you can't be close friends with an ex...it's a mess waiting to happen' camp. Not to say there can't be exceptions...but if I were the girlfriend I'd be unhappy about it. Especially because she was still hankering after you when you'd broken up.
I find it's also relevant in terms of what they meant to you and how long you were together for. It's easy to be friends with someone you were only with for a short while. Longer relationships...it should be more of an acquaintance type thing.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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