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Originally Posted by Deltona Couple
Well but in my eyes my child's life was more important to me than anything else.
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You are looking at the situation with hindsight. You are seeing your alive, close to adult child and remembering that this child
could have been aborted. It is always easier to look back and say "what if". Putting the unborn child before the wishes of the birth mother has probably caused her more harm then you will ever know. I see that you will say, "so what" or something similar, but you can not compare "could ofs" with "should ofs".
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Originally Posted by Deltona Couple
Who are YOU to judge?
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I wanted to say that I'm not judging, and I know this question wasn't directed at me, but I'm still not judging. While the result you achieved makes you happy, the methods used to achieve that result were not showing your best side. This is an opinion, not a judgment.
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Originally Posted by Deltona Couple
If I were to follow YOUR direction, my child would not be alive today. I can sleep at night knowing that I made the right decision. Is the fact that she wanted to have the abortion and not include me in the decision right? Was it fair to our child? HELL NO!
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That is the basic argument. Does the unborn child have rights over the living person(s) already here? My personal vote is no.
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Originally Posted by Deltona Couple
I am SICK and tired of people preaching that a father has no frigging rights when it comes to a child, or it being born, but I bet if I wanted her to have the abortion, and she chose to have the child, you and all the courts in the US would sure as HELL expect me to pay child support!
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I said in an earlier posts that there needs to be some sort of safeguards in place for a man who does not want the child born and if they should have financial responsibility for that child if it is born against their wishes. This needs to change. If women want the choice, they need to make the choice and not make it with an attached paycheck.
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Originally Posted by Deltona Couple
And her mom? She has had nothing to do with her or her sister's life for the past 10 years. Yea, I guess I am wrong, I should have just let her mom kill her. How could I have been so uncaring and thoughtless?  |
Umm, yeah. You forced her to have a child against what she wanted. Did you really think she was going to fall in love with you all over again and it was going to be all rainbows and butterflies?
You can not compare hindsight with the everyday reality of what the Mom of those girls feels, thinks and hurts through every day. In this particular instance hindsight is clouding how you are thinking, not helping.