alicat

I have a hard time with post's like these because it is so personal and emotional for me. I'm sure I've written about my history in the years since I've been here. I'll try to recap. It is extremely rare but I and Hubby have a translocation in our 16th set of chromesomes and both of us combined leads to a 50% chance of any given pregnancy resulting in very serious birth defect's. We knew nothing of this when our first and only child (son) was born in 1993 and lived and died in the NICU at 2 1/2 mths. old, never coming home with and to us (if that sounded cold, it is only because i'd write way too much if I let emotion's in...)

We cannot have children together because the risks are so high, yet we have always wanted to have children, not grow into our old age with no children or grandbabies. We're both 38 and time is getting short but we have nowhere near the finances to adopt a sweet baby.

All of that is to say that whatever is right for you two is what you should do, but think about those of us who deperately want children and genetically and financially can't have them. I'm Pro-choice and have strong feelings that go with that. Personally I feel the need to say please, if she is pregnant, enjoy it as the blessing it is, despite the pain-in-the-ass I'm sure it will at some times be!!! That is some little bit, my jealousy speaking, wishing I was anybody else who could have a healthy baby when I and DH can't.

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