Originally Posted by Martian

I'm in a workplace relationship. Magpie and I met on the job. At the end of our first date, we mutually discussed the issue and decided that, while we had no intention of hiding our blossoming relationship, it was essential to keep it out of work. On the job we don't have a whole lot of contact, and what we do have differs very little from that of anyone else in the building, except maybe when I ask what she wants for dinner.

Ask yourself:

Do you have the necessary professionalism and mental fortitude to keep your personal life out of work, regardless of what happens at home? Does she?

If the answers to those two questions are yes, I say go for it. Life's too short not to take a chance. Ask her out for a drink and/or a bite to eat or whatever it is you kids do these days. There's no harm in it and you don't have to declare your undying love up front. If things go badly you can always say 'thanks for the lovely evening' and just leave it there.

You're not here because you want us to tell you not to, you're here because you want to but don't think you should. Sack up, mate.

The bigger concern for me would be the 'It's complicated' bit. That doesn't just raise a red flag, it sets off sirens and flashing lights and a great big neon sign that says 'Big Bag of Crazy.' If I were you, I'd probably let her get that drama sorted out first, then reassess the situation; that said, I don't know the details (nor do I want to) so it's up to you whether or not that's something worth getting concerned over.