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Another vote for the "share what you're feeling" referendum. :-)
But in all seriousness....I'm a fan of parenting blogs and other parenting media. I can't explain my particular fascination with these materials, as I am not a parent, but I think at least part of my interest stems from wanting to be able to sort through the bullshit when my time comes. There's a lot of bad/unsupported/completely biased advice out there. One such notion that is finally starting to get some negative press is what I call the "happy parent myth". That is, a prescribed set of emotions one should feel from the moment the sperm hits the egg. There is no right way to feel. There should be no shame in having doubts or negative emotions about parenthood. I have no doubt that you'll make a great father if that's where this leads. You know that. But feeling doubt, fear, even trepidation, about the prospect is OK....just be honest about it with your partner. As pointed out, she probably has a whole host of emotions herself. You all will figure it out.
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"With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy."
-Desiderata
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