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NoSoup · 06-09-2009, 03:43 PM

Well, it's been nearly 24 hours since I've known - here's the update.

First of all, thanks for your responses - it's nice to see some other folks reactions to this as well, and it gives me hope.

I'm still not 100% on the idea of being a father, though I guess at this point it isn't much of a choice, anymore. It isn't as though we've never considered pregnancy, but as I've learned time and time again, there is a vast difference between theory and actuality.

She isn't home from work yet, so I don't know when we're going to visit the lady doctor, but I'm really hoping it's soon.

Regardless of how I end up feeling about being a parent, I'll be the best parent I can be. It's just so.... unexpected. I think we're ok financially, but I certainly would have loved an extra 5 years socking money away and paying off our house.

As far as my wife is concerned, she's had an especially rough time recently. In fact, 10 days prior to yesterday, we had to put our dog down - just as she was finally getting over the overwhelming grief and seeing a few of the (small) silver linings without having the responsibility of a pet (can actually go somewhere for a weekend without pre-arranging dog coverage, stay away from our house for more than 8 hours at a time, etc) we get this news. Her current feelings on the pregnancy: Terrified. I understand communication is a very important part of any relationship, and I think we have an exceptionally strong marriage, but so far I've been keeping my qualms to myself - I'd rather just be supportive of her, and I don't want her to think that I have any doubts.

Logically, I understand that it'll probably be ok one way or another, but... I just don't feel ready yet. Then again, I don't know if I ever would have. I've always been very conservative and had a "plan" for the future - for something like this to happen is just... shocking. It's incredible how much the affects the good ol' life plan.

I really do appreciate all of your insights and stories - my wife and I discussed it last night, and we also decided not to tell anyone but the parents about it until the 2nd trimester. I suppose that means you don't exist, but I think a relatively anonymous internet posting is harmless

After we chat tonight, I'll proabably swing back on and update.

Thanks again!

NoSoup

06-09-2009, 03:43 PM	#20 (permalink)
NoSoup Non-Rookie Location: Green Bay, WI	Well, it's been nearly 24 hours since I've known - here's the update. First of all, thanks for your responses - it's nice to see some other folks reactions to this as well, and it gives me hope. I'm still not 100% on the idea of being a father, though I guess at this point it isn't much of a choice, anymore. It isn't as though we've never considered pregnancy, but as I've learned time and time again, there is a vast difference between theory and actuality. She isn't home from work yet, so I don't know when we're going to visit the lady doctor, but I'm really hoping it's soon. Regardless of how I end up feeling about being a parent, I'll be the best parent I can be. It's just so.... unexpected. I think we're ok financially, but I certainly would have loved an extra 5 years socking money away and paying off our house. As far as my wife is concerned, she's had an especially rough time recently. In fact, 10 days prior to yesterday, we had to put our dog down - just as she was finally getting over the overwhelming grief and seeing a few of the (small) silver linings without having the responsibility of a pet (can actually go somewhere for a weekend without pre-arranging dog coverage, stay away from our house for more than 8 hours at a time, etc) we get this news. Her current feelings on the pregnancy: Terrified. I understand communication is a very important part of any relationship, and I think we have an exceptionally strong marriage, but so far I've been keeping my qualms to myself - I'd rather just be supportive of her, and I don't want her to think that I have any doubts. Logically, I understand that it'll probably be ok one way or another, but... I just don't feel ready yet. Then again, I don't know if I ever would have. I've always been very conservative and had a "plan" for the future - for something like this to happen is just... shocking. It's incredible how much the affects the good ol' life plan. I really do appreciate all of your insights and stories - my wife and I discussed it last night, and we also decided not to tell anyone but the parents about it until the 2nd trimester. I suppose that means you don't exist, but I think a relatively anonymous internet posting is harmless After we chat tonight, I'll proabably swing back on and update. Thanks again! NoSoup __________________ I have an aura of reliability and good judgement. Just in case you were wondering...