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Originally Posted by squeeeb
my life was completely derailed by it, now i have a daughter that i'm damn proud of, who makes me smile and laugh and makes me happy. i never wanted a kid, but i got one, and that is that. you cant think "damn, what if it didn't happen?" if you are gonna be a daddy, think of the the good parts about it, enjoy it, and that is that. not much you can do to change it, might as well enjoy the ride as much as possible.
if she is indeed pregnant...hang in there. the next 19 years are gonna be difficult, but manageable, usually happy, sometimes not, and again, dude, it will all work out.
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...very well penned, squeeeb.
...my late husband (died young 2 yrs after the birth of his son) did not really want children but the second his baby son came out, i looked at him and saw a completely different person. He was totally enamored, totally captivated, eyes were filled with love and a complete softening of his whole being was evident. I mean, he was always a good, kind loving husband but this event just got him hook, line, and sinker. It may surprise you too.
...bringing life into the world is so awesome, it will take your breath away...and then nothing else matters...the labor-pains the mother underwent is forgotten, the financial worries are overcome by a surge of lovefed-adrenalin that puts you in survival mode to nurture and protect the most precious thing that has ever been placed in your care. Your selfish desires for time and space vanish as you desire to share what's the most important thing in life...love and family. I remember my husband wanted to put a "Precious Cargo" sign on the car to bring the baby home from the hospital. He couldn't stop kissing his tiny soft head. He couldn't take his eyes off him. It was the most endearing thing i've ever watched.
...it was such a loss when my husband died so appreciate and savor this amazing gift you've been blessed with. If your wife is pregnant, you're the luckiest man in the world.