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CaptainRow · 06-07-2009, 04:54 PM

I've tried figuring out how to write this so it doesn't seem crass, but my girlfriend is really terrible at giving blow jobs.

It's been a problem for as long as we've been dating (about seven months now) but it wasn't that bad as it is now because I was only able to see her once every 4-6 weeks and even then for only a night or two. When I did see her then, I was horny beyond belief, so just giving me a sexy look and pushing me down on the bed was more than enough to make me come (figuratively, haha).

But now, I've been seeing her almost daily for the last two weeks because I've come back from college - I wasn't able to see her while I was at school because my varsity rowing schedule really took up all of my time - and when she tries to go down on me its an utter failure. Handjobs too, she'll be going for a few minutes and I'll feel myself getting smaller and she'll be working on me for close to half an hour and It'll feel nice, but there's just no way to make me come, it seems.

I've tried telling her what I like, but she's unable to do all of it - she can't fit more than a third to a half of me inside of her mouth without choking or gagging and she can't suck and lick as hard as I'd like either. Her grip is also not great.
I've tried showing her what I like, but it's always not right. "Not right" is a good way to say it, actually. What she is doing to me feels good, but it's not what I need to be feeling in order to orgasm!

I'm not sure if my particularity with all of this is because I'm a very picky guy or if she's just bad at it, or if it's a combination of the two.

I'm more than able to get off when I'm doing it myself - to porn, to images of my girlfriend in my head, or when she's right in front of me. I'm actually fearing that because I'm so used to doing it my own way when she does it to me it's not exactly perfect and that's why I'm unable to orgasm.

This is my question, and I'm really dying for some advice. I've read a lot of forum posts about oral issues and I know I'm not alone in having difficulty achieving an orgasm this way.
So, how can I help my girl friend get better at pleasing me?
Is there a way I can learn to be a little less picky so maybe going down on me is easier for her?

Is there anything else I should add?
My girlfriend's been able to orgasm each time I've given her oral. The last time I did it took a really long time though because she was crying after not being able to give me a blow job that caused me to orgasm. She's not obsessing over it yet, but after each failed attempt she does pace around and looks really upset and wonders why she can't even give me a good blow job.

I can really see how this can screw us up eventually, so I'm really struggling to find a way that will make me come!

06-07-2009, 04:54 PM	#1 (permalink)
CaptainRow Upright Location: NY	Oral Problems I've tried figuring out how to write this so it doesn't seem crass, but my girlfriend is really terrible at giving blow jobs. It's been a problem for as long as we've been dating (about seven months now) but it wasn't that bad as it is now because I was only able to see her once every 4-6 weeks and even then for only a night or two. When I did see her then, I was horny beyond belief, so just giving me a sexy look and pushing me down on the bed was more than enough to make me come (figuratively, haha). But now, I've been seeing her almost daily for the last two weeks because I've come back from college - I wasn't able to see her while I was at school because my varsity rowing schedule really took up all of my time - and when she tries to go down on me its an utter failure. Handjobs too, she'll be going for a few minutes and I'll feel myself getting smaller and she'll be working on me for close to half an hour and It'll feel nice, but there's just no way to make me come, it seems. I've tried telling her what I like, but she's unable to do all of it - she can't fit more than a third to a half of me inside of her mouth without choking or gagging and she can't suck and lick as hard as I'd like either. Her grip is also not great. I've tried showing her what I like, but it's always not right. "Not right" is a good way to say it, actually. What she is doing to me feels good, but it's not what I need to be feeling in order to orgasm! I'm not sure if my particularity with all of this is because I'm a very picky guy or if she's just bad at it, or if it's a combination of the two. I'm more than able to get off when I'm doing it myself - to porn, to images of my girlfriend in my head, or when she's right in front of me. I'm actually fearing that because I'm so used to doing it my own way when she does it to me it's not exactly perfect and that's why I'm unable to orgasm. This is my question, and I'm really dying for some advice. I've read a lot of forum posts about oral issues and I know I'm not alone in having difficulty achieving an orgasm this way. So, how can I help my girl friend get better at pleasing me? Is there a way I can learn to be a little less picky so maybe going down on me is easier for her? Is there anything else I should add? My girlfriend's been able to orgasm each time I've given her oral. The last time I did it took a really long time though because she was crying after not being able to give me a blow job that caused me to orgasm. She's not obsessing over it yet, but after each failed attempt she does pace around and looks really upset and wonders why she can't even give me a good blow job. I can really see how this can screw us up eventually, so I'm really struggling to find a way that will make me come!