...what i'm about to say is not judgemental of others here because i believe almost anything goes in the bedroom as long as both agree on it...and to each his own...but, i'm definitely different than everyone who has spoken so far (i think, unless i missed someone). Anyway, i'm sure i've experienced sex just as hot as everyone else BUT it hasn't included F-words, C-words, P-words, D-words, etc. It just has a degrading feel to it....for me anyway. The closest I've come to that is when we we're half-arguing the whole time (very HOT)...in a playful way...sometimes giggling...sometimes grrrring...sometimes thinking i'm actually angry only to turn to losing control of my will-power....but then throwing in a little barb to heat things up again...it's all in the subtle tease...like a well orchestrated dance of wills...ebbing and flowing together in a rythym of perfect chemistry and timing.
I prefer more tender, creative words in near whispers with heavy breathing, talking into my mouth, into my flesh, into my ear, into my errogenous zones. Not crude words, nor vulgar words but...
...just talking ("i want to inhale you...taste you", "the scent of your flesh is intoxicating", etc)
...or quoting sexy lines from others like Lord Byron's, "...and in her starry shade of dim and solitary loveliness, i learned the language of another world." and "she walks in beauty, like the night of cloudless climes and starry skies; and all that's best of dark & bright meet in her aspect and her eyes".....keep it in third person, it's sexy
...and then going on about the eyes and how they penetrate your very soul
...or say anything in almost any other language (except pig-latin lol)...you could say, "my dog has fleas" in French and i would be wayyy turned on LOL
Of course, when things heat up then the tender-talk doesn't work but anything is better than "F-me" or "stick your D in my P"...to me, those are overdone cheap degrading cliche's.
It's no wonder i was a sucker for this opening scene of don Juan deMarco with Johnny Depp even though you may laugh (especially at the end lol):