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CinnamonGirl · 06-04-2009, 04:33 PM

Since we've been bumping old threads, I wanted to come back to this one. Funny how distance gives you a new perspective.

We were unevenly matched, looks-wise-- he was (is) much more attractive than I am. He believed he was settling because I'd never be the Barbie Girl that he (and, let's face it, lots of guys) find so sexy. And I suppose he WAS settling... the way I look meant more to him than any of my fabulous virtues (

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I don't think I was clear in my original post-- I DO think every relationship needs compromise, and I don't see that as settling. I suppose "settling" to me would be something along the lines of, "well, I'm not in love with you, but it's easier to be with you than NOT, so whatever." I don't want to do that, ever.

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CinnamonGirl She's Actual Size Location: Central Republic of Where-in-the-Hell	Since we've been bumping old threads, I wanted to come back to this one. Funny how distance gives you a new perspective. We were unevenly matched, looks-wise-- he was (is) much more attractive than I am. He believed he was settling because I'd never be the Barbie Girl that he (and, let's face it, lots of guys) find so sexy. And I suppose he WAS settling... the way I look meant more to him than any of my fabulous virtues ( ). I don't think I was clear in my original post-- I DO think every relationship needs compromise, and I don't see that as settling. I suppose "settling" to me would be something along the lines of, "well, I'm not in love with you, but it's easier to be with you than NOT, so whatever." I don't want to do that, ever. __________________ "...for though she was ordinary, she possessed health, wit, courage, charm, and cheerfulness. But because she was not beautiful, no one ever seemed to notice these other qualities, which is so often the way of the world." "Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"