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Halanna · 06-03-2009, 03:39 AM

I voted that it is right. Since that was the only postive choice in the poll, but I think it's right that women have the right. There does need to be trimester limits though.

Childbirth and pregnancy is an emotional, mental and physical event in a woman's life. But the emotional, mental and physical effects do not suddenly disappear when the woman gives birth. The thought that the child should be given up for adoption or given to the father is not the end all of the situation. Now you have a women who has spent 9 months bearing a child against her will, and a lifetime of worry, regret, loss and pain at giving that child away.

Why does giving birth end the mother's feelings? She may not want the child, can't afford the child, or doesn't feel she can be a good parent, but I would venture 9 times out of 10, once that child is born, she feels the maternal bond and the unconditional love. So the solution is to continue to hurt her for the rest of her life by having her give the child away. Hmm.

No, I don't believe the father should have a say in whether the child is born. He has no right to use a women's body for his own gain. If he want's to be a father, he needs to find a partner who shares his vision of parenthood and deliberately choose to have children. Really, what man wants to force a woman to bear a child against her will? If that is his route to fatherhood, he's already gotten off on the wrong foot. I also think the instances of the man wanting the child are rare cases and not the norm.

I don't think the majority of women who have abortions do so for purely selfish reasons. I think a major part of the decision comes from their belief that they can't adequately care for the child, whether that be financially, emotionally or wherever their train of thought takes them. I also don't think the majority of women who choose to have abortions make the decision on a whim or take the decision lightly. I think they do understand what they are doing and that is why they make the decision after all.

Is the developing fetus life? I don't know, I'm not a scientist or medical doctor. Is it necessarily right or wrong? I don't know. But I do believe it is right to give the woman a choice.

And to Xerxys - Yes, absolutely the child support laws need to be amended in the case of a women having a child without the man's consent. Some safeguards for men need to be in place where they can have the Court record their wish that the child not be born, that they do not want responsibility, etc. and they are found not to be legally responsible for that child.

If women want the right to to abort a fetus, then they have to allow a two lane road where the man is not responsible (at his choosing) if the woman chooses NOT to exercise that right.

06-03-2009, 03:39 AM	#32 (permalink)
Halanna Insane Location: Over the rainbow . .	I voted that it is right. Since that was the only postive choice in the poll, but I think it's right that women have the right. There does need to be trimester limits though. Childbirth and pregnancy is an emotional, mental and physical event in a woman's life. But the emotional, mental and physical effects do not suddenly disappear when the woman gives birth. The thought that the child should be given up for adoption or given to the father is not the end all of the situation. Now you have a women who has spent 9 months bearing a child against her will, and a lifetime of worry, regret, loss and pain at giving that child away. Why does giving birth end the mother's feelings? She may not want the child, can't afford the child, or doesn't feel she can be a good parent, but I would venture 9 times out of 10, once that child is born, she feels the maternal bond and the unconditional love. So the solution is to continue to hurt her for the rest of her life by having her give the child away. Hmm. No, I don't believe the father should have a say in whether the child is born. He has no right to use a women's body for his own gain. If he want's to be a father, he needs to find a partner who shares his vision of parenthood and deliberately choose to have children. Really, what man wants to force a woman to bear a child against her will? If that is his route to fatherhood, he's already gotten off on the wrong foot. I also think the instances of the man wanting the child are rare cases and not the norm. I don't think the majority of women who have abortions do so for purely selfish reasons. I think a major part of the decision comes from their belief that they can't adequately care for the child, whether that be financially, emotionally or wherever their train of thought takes them. I also don't think the majority of women who choose to have abortions make the decision on a whim or take the decision lightly. I think they do understand what they are doing and that is why they make the decision after all. Is the developing fetus life? I don't know, I'm not a scientist or medical doctor. Is it necessarily right or wrong? I don't know. But I do believe it is right to give the woman a choice. And to Xerxys - Yes, absolutely the child support laws need to be amended in the case of a women having a child without the man's consent. Some safeguards for men need to be in place where they can have the Court record their wish that the child not be born, that they do not want responsibility, etc. and they are found not to be legally responsible for that child. If women want the right to to abort a fetus, then they have to allow a two lane road where the man is not responsible (at his choosing) if the woman chooses NOT to exercise that right.