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MilleniumZeus · 06-10-2003, 03:08 PM

Enough with all this lecturing, folks. Obviously, if Babaloo was an unfeeling asshole, he wouldn't have shared with us. He needs constructive help here, not your horrible childhoods revisited. He knows that the kids will have dfficulties and he knows that the road won't be easy. I can't believe I am saying all of this.(see my first post) He needs to decide what is best for him. If he stays with his current wife and things don't improve, the whole family suffers. He is miserable, depressed and life is shit. Kids are smart and they sense these things. For those of you whose families split up, do you think things would have been better if your parents stayed married? Can anyone really know? How miserable would they be? Babaloo, my heart to heart questions to you is do you love your wife and do you think your marriage is salvageable and if so, can you see yourself happy again with her? Look to see why the other woman makes you happy and think back when you were first married. Did your wife back then have those same qualities? Can you talk to your wife? Is there decent communication? After my wife's affair, I asked why. She said he was easy to talk to and she felt she could tell him anything. I understand why my wife did what she did. I still have an aweful time with trust. Honestly, kids won't just bounce back and you probably see years of family therapy. My 8 year old son can see how much pain I am in. Read my poem "This man's heart" in the Tilted Literature and you will know how I feel about where I am now staying with my wife. Again, Good luck.

06-10-2003, 03:08 PM	#31 (permalink)
MilleniumZeus Crazy Location: Northern Virginia	Enough with all this lecturing, folks. Obviously, if Babaloo was an unfeeling asshole, he wouldn't have shared with us. He needs constructive help here, not your horrible childhoods revisited. He knows that the kids will have dfficulties and he knows that the road won't be easy. I can't believe I am saying all of this.(see my first post) He needs to decide what is best for him. If he stays with his current wife and things don't improve, the whole family suffers. He is miserable, depressed and life is shit. Kids are smart and they sense these things. For those of you whose families split up, do you think things would have been better if your parents stayed married? Can anyone really know? How miserable would they be? Babaloo, my heart to heart questions to you is do you love your wife and do you think your marriage is salvageable and if so, can you see yourself happy again with her? Look to see why the other woman makes you happy and think back when you were first married. Did your wife back then have those same qualities? Can you talk to your wife? Is there decent communication? After my wife's affair, I asked why. She said he was easy to talk to and she felt she could tell him anything. I understand why my wife did what she did. I still have an aweful time with trust. Honestly, kids won't just bounce back and you probably see years of family therapy. My 8 year old son can see how much pain I am in. Read my poem "This man's heart" in the Tilted Literature and you will know how I feel about where I am now staying with my wife. Again, Good luck. __________________ ZEUS IS IN THE HOUSE!!! Last edited by MilleniumZeus; 06-10-2003 at 03:11 PM..